Thursday, April 23, 2015

Trying day

  Today has been one of those days that I wish I had stayed in bed. Have you ever had people blame others instead of admitting they dropped the ball and didn't do their job properly? 
It is always someone  else's fault.
  I get very frustrated when I get lip service telling me what they think I want to hear instead of doing the job that they are suppose to do. 
  I have to make up my mind how I want to deal with it. I don't like being a complainer or bitch about everything. I just want people to do their job to the best of their ability. I was always taught if you had a job whether you liked it or not you did it to the best of your ability. O.k. I just need to say that and get it off my chest. 
   Yesterday was a busy day for me. I stopped by the nursing home to see hubby, then picked up my oldest grandson at school so he could help my daughter get her yard mowed, ended up taking my youngest grandson bowling for his mom. Her hubby got his stitches out yesterday and the doctor said he was doing good. He will be starting cardiac rehab. It will just take a while to get back on his feet. It is not something that will happen over night or in a week. It is just hard to do nothing when you are so use to working every day and you aren't one who likes to sit around. 
   My youngest grandson is very smart for his age with everything that he has gone through with his dad. He wanted to know if his grandfather uses a pen to take his insulin and how many times a day. He told me all about how his dad did his. He talked about his open heart surgery and he is only nine. It is amazing what they can comprehend at such a young age. He asked his dad if he needed anything before he went bowling.
   I am just glad that I am able to help out and do for the kids. It gives me other things to think about and I enjoyed watching him bowl. He likes to do it. He got three strikes while I watched. He is learning. I  also watched some of the high school kids bowl. Some of them were pretty good. 
   I am going to spend the afternoon of running some errands. I am not going back to the nursing home. I was there this morning for a family care planning meeting. 
   I didn't take the picture of the sunset. It is the Missouri River, but I don't know the location. I just know that I liked it. 
   My brother went to a nursing home. I know it will be a while before he is allowed to put any weight on his leg. I keep praying for him, but I really feel that he is in the best place. It will allow his wife to recuperate because of her trying to take care of him with his dementia before he broke his leg and suffered a stroke. It is very trying when you are a care giver. It can be very emotional  and cause tears when you see things that you wish was different even though you know that it is for the best. Just take every day you are given and pray for the best.
   Well enough of this and that. I am still here just busy. Hugs and Prayers to all of those in need. Take care


Julie's Lifestyle said...

Aww Shirley, just hang in there. It is good to write about things and sometimes it makes you feel better. I will be saying prayers for you and your family. Take care.
Hugs, Julie xo

Louise Michie said...

I enjoy reading about your family. They are a close, caring bunch and your involvement is remarkable. Sometimes I wonder how you achieve so much each day. It must be the country life.

NanaDiana said...

You are so right, Shirley. When you have a job to do you should do it the best you can whether you like doing it or not. That is something our generation learned.

I am glad you have the diversion of the grandkids. It really does help. That is pretty good- 3 strikes for a nine year old!

I am sorry for your brother but you are right - I am sure it is the best place for him and especially for his wife. Sometimes all you can do is turn their care over and pray that God will take over from there.

I hope you had a good afternoon and have a great evening! xo Diana

Blondie's Journal said...


I have felt the way you do many, many times. Many have a hard time admitting when they are wrong and they make it miserable for everyone. Know that you can "get it out" on your blog. We are women united.

You are way busier than me, you have a good heart. I pray for your family and their health.

Jane x

Linda said...

Your photo is beautiful and is proof that you always try to see the bright side of anything! Sorry that sometimes that bright side isn't very light!
You always stay busy helping and serving others.....
I so admire that about you!

Carol- Beads and Birds said...

We have a family situation with our oldest (19) grandson. I admit that his mother has guided them through a very dysfunctional life and he lived with us off and on since he was small. He NEVER takes responsibility for his actions. It's taken me a long time to realize that it is his personality and not the way he was raised. It's very frustrating. I'm sure there are just so many people like this. It's hard to deal with.

I fear I am headed to that care giver designation. I'll be asking the doctor on my husband's next visit if there is a way to tell if Terry is experiencing dementia or if it's more serious. He has taken so many different drugs for 40 years since he was diagnosed with RA I can't help but wonder what effect they have had on his entire body.

I'm glad you get out and enjoy your grandchildren. They are so much fun and you are so right, so smart. They have access to so much information through the internet. It's amazing how much they absorb.
Best Wishes

Mereknits said...

I am so glad you have those wonderful boys of yours to brighten even your hardest day. Take good care of yourself.

Susie said...

Shirley, I think people who are care givers need vacation time. I don't mean a big 2 week cruise...but by golly, they need a day or two off here and there...if the person you are helping care for is in a nursing home...let them do their job and take a break. Otherwise your life is being drained to no avail. This doesn't mean you don't love the person...but if you are wore down, that can't be good.I know it's hard. My family went through this with our father. We had to take turns.It's too much for one person. Sending prayers to all of your family. I know you all could use a break and lots of hugs. xoxo,Susie

Gert said...

Shirley, oh how I know what you mean about lip service. I too wish sometimes, that they would just tell the truth and say it! I think our work ethics are a lot different than some others.

How proud you must be of your grandsons! They sound like some amazing boys

My prayers are with you and your family. So sorry to hear about your brother.


Grandma Yellow Hair said...

My sweet Missouri friend, How often I think of you wondering how your holding up and what your doing.
It's great to be close enough to help with your grand kids and like mine it sounds like they are growing up way too fast. Three strikes is quite the accomplishment for a beginner. I bowled for years and miss it.
You have every right to expect others to do their job. That's just how we were raised and we put a 100 percent into our work no matter what job it was so you expect that of others but I am afraid those times are fading all to quickly.
Glad to hear your brother is getting the care he needs. It is terribly hard on a caregiver no matter if their home or in a care facility.
Thanks sweet friend for such beautiful words about Christi's wedding photo's. I longed for this day for so many years and now it seems strange it has come and gone.
I still can't believe I got so sick just a month before and really did not get to participate like I wanted in some of the happenings before.
God was good and let the rains fall all around the area but left that space clear long enough for her to have a beautiful wedding.
It was simple but lovely. She is married now to a good Christian man and I feel so much joy for her and Paul.
The storm that came through here last night left me with a horrific mess in the back forty so I know I won't be able to clean it up by myself now that I get so weak. She has been understanding and will have to understand this too. haha
Know that I love you and think of you often. I hope to share more pictures of the photographers photos one of these days. Don't know when she will have those.
Love ya

Quinn said...

'Just take every day you are given and pray for the best.'
I couldn't agree with you more, Shirley! Take care of yourself. I think of you often :)

summer said...

Hi Shirley Thanks for your visit, what a beautiful photo on your post! it's great you have the grandchildren to occupy your mind! I hope you're feeling better now.